Boost Your Child’s Self-esteem
Raising confident children is important for their well-being. A child’s self-esteem can affect how he will relate to his peers and see the world in general. Children who have high self-esteem feel good about themselves. They also do well wherever they are since they believe in their capabilities.
As parents, part of your role is to ensure that your child grows holistically. He or she should be physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally healthy.
Of course, you will find that you cannot fix how your child will perceive himself. You cannot force a child to change the way he or she thinks of himself. You must also remember that each child is different. For some children, being self-confident comes easily. For some, it can be a struggle. If your child has low-esteem, here are the simple things that you can do to help him feel good about himself.
Watch over their health.
A healthy child will regard himself better. He will feel more confident to see the world and try new things. He will be more confident to try new sports and play with other kids.
Nourish your child with healthy and nutritious foods. Let your child have at least an hour of physical activity daily. See his pediatrician regularly to monitor his health and growth. Do not forget to see a kids’ dentist if you want to protect your child’s teeth and keep them healthy. A healthy and beautiful smile can help your child be more confident about himself in facing the world beyond.
Let them do things on their own.
Your child will never learn if you keep hovering over every step he or she takes. Step back and observe. Let your child take healthy risks and make his own decisions. Let him learn from his mistakes and correct himself. Allow them to explore on their own.
Stop yourself from being available to their rescue at all times. Should your kid make a mistake, like spill his milk on the floor, you can observe first his reactions. You will be surprised he is likely to reach for a rag to fix his mistakes.
Praise your child, but don’t overdo it.
Give praise where praise is due. However, do not overdo it. Overpraising can be harmful to your child’s development. Giving praise despite knowing that they did not do well can lower their standards.
You can praise your child’s efforts instead. If your child is playing the piano, do not tell him that he is the best pianist you’ve heard play. You can instead praise his determination to learn and the efforts he puts into practice every day.
Let your child know it is okay to make mistakes.
No one is perfect. Your child should understand this and should know that no one expects him to be. How you react when your child commits mistakes will affect how he will view failures. Cut back on harsh criticisms. Harsh words are dangerous to your child’s self-esteem. Negative words, such as lazy, useless, and stupid, can easily affect how they see themselves. Whether you are angry or disappointed with your children, never belittle them.
Be patient when your child commits mistakes. Be firm and correct them. Instead of calling them names, focus on how you want them to act next time. Show them how to do it right. If you are angry, pause before you can say something you can never take back.
Let them help with household chores.
Give your child a sense of responsibility and ownership by giving him age-appropriate tasks at home. When your child is helping at home, he will feel capable. Allow him to demonstrate what he can do and let him know that his contributions are valuable. It can be as simple as making their own beds or folding their own laundry.
Support their interests.
Encourage your child to do his interests and support him fully. If your child likes to paint, support him, and enroll him in an art class. Do not force him to play sports just because all the kids in the block are into sports. Appreciate your child’s unique gifts and avoid comparison with his siblings and other children. Doing so will only push your child to resent you and the person he is being compared with.
Spend quality time with your child.
Spend time with your child. Whether it’s grabbing a bite at his favorite fast food or watching his favorite cartoons at the weekend, it allows you and your child to talk. A child will feel more confident in facing the world when he knows that you are there to watch his back and support him.
Even adults struggle with self-esteem at times. Help your child develop a strong sense of self that will empower him to face the challenges that he may encounter as he grows into adulthood.